How To Deal With Toxic Family Members
How To Deal With Toxic Family Members
Everyone has them. The needy, gossiper, lying, "no-good" of a family member. There's no way of escaping it unfortunately you all are related. Then again, you don't have to put up with the foolishness either. Why? Well, let's take a look at when it's time to let go of that toxic family member once and for all...
How To Deal With Toxic Family Members:
1. When the relationship is based in any kind of abuse, mentally,
physically, sexually, verbally or emotionally. When the relationship is
based in manipulation, overt or covert, you can be sure you are being
used and abused. When you are living in constant anxiety never knowing or being able to predict how any engagement is going to turn out, it is time to love yourself enough to let go.
2. It is time to terminate a relationship when the only contact you have
with them is negative. The contact you have with them serves to bring
you down, put you down and/or make you feel you are not good enough, or
you haven't done enough for them.
3. When the relationship creates so much stress that it affects the
important areas of your life at work, home or both. When your emotions
are totally caught up in defending yourself and wanting to explain
yourself and the chaos of your relationships with these people is all
you talk about, it is time to let go.
4. If you find yourself obsessed with the gossip about you and trying to
right wrong information, and you are constantly being ostracized to the
point you are losing sleep over it, you are becoming poisoned with
their toxicity. Gossip only serves one family member to get others to
gang up on you and you are left defenseless against the false beliefs
about you being thrown your way. There is usually a ring leader
gathering the troops for the assault and because they are joined
together, you begin to wonder whether it is you that is the problem.
5. When the relationship is completely all about the other person and
there is no real reason why the other person cannot make any effort
toward the health and maintenance of the relationship with you. One
sided relationships are set up for your failure. When you realize there
is never going to be an "enough" place for you to reach in the
relationship, you need to let go and start to focus on your own healing.
6. When and whether the relationship is only about borrowing or needing money.
7. When crazy-making, no-win games dominate the relationship such as the
silent treatment, blame-games, no-win arguments that spin around on
you, there is no point in continuing in this battle. Verbal warfare is
never the place you will convince them of anything and these kinds of
verbal interactions are set up to be their way or the highway. If these
are the negative consequences you receive each time this person or
people don't get their way, it is time to let go.
How To Deal With Toxic Family Members
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