Failure To Launch: Adult Children Who Never Leave The Nest

Failure To Launch: Adult Children Who Never Leave The Nest

For generations adult children have remained living with their parents and usually with undisclosed reasons of why. The amount of adult children living with their parents is steady increasing. Let's be clear, twenty something year old's that graduated from college and coming back home doesn't count. I'm talking about the forty, fifty, even sixty year old's that are fully grown, but refuse to leave the nest.
Reasons why kids may be living with their parents for longer periods of time and steps that parents can take to reduce the potential negative effects are outlined below

The Adult Child...

"Sometimes young people live at home for practical reasons," says Sally Koslow, author of Slouching Toward Adulthood: Observations From the Not-So-Empty Nest. "Sometimes it's for the lifestyle. They don't have to pay and have access to a full refrigerator." Many also return when marriages end. Among 30- to 34-year-olds who live with their parents, 20% are divorced. U.S. census data for the year 2011 showed that almost 20% of Americans between the ages of 25 to 34 were living with their parents. For those aged 18 to 24, the number is 59% of men and 50% of women.

The Parent(s)...

Chief executive David Orr said: "Empty nest syndrome is becoming a thing of the past. Rather than waving their children off as they grow up and move out, parents are stuck with kids in their thirties still living at home."Moving out and setting up a family home of your own is a normal rite of passage. Yet as rents, mortgages and deposits continue to soar out of reach, it is no longer an option for many.
"We're delaying adulthood for grown-ups kids who are left stuck in their childhood bedrooms. As a result, parents are also trapped, unable to move on with their lives and benefit from the freedom which comes when their sons and daughters move out."

Just over a quarter (26%) said having a grown-up child sharing their home brought their family closer together, but nearly the same proportion, 23%, said the situation caused them stress and 18% said it caused arguments. The cost of living away from home being too high was blamed by 41%, while 22% said their children were temporarily living at home while they saved up for a deposit. Orr added: "As a country we need to build more homes at the right prices in the right areas now to ensure there is another option. We must encourage more development of new homes and the decisions about where more homes are built are being made locally, by local councillors.

There are countless reasons why adult children refuse to leave the nest. Why? We may never know. What are your thoughts about this topic? The PREYing Narcissist wants to hear from you!

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Sam MedinaMarch 31, 2016 at 7:51 AM
It seems to be mainly economic. Wages have stagnated, while the cost of living has become very high. Frty years ago, you could pay your own tuition on a minimum wage job. Now, that same job won't even pay rent.

So it would seem that saying we're 'delaying adulthood'for our children is not an accurate statement. It's certainly the case some of the time, but the increase in people returning to the nest or never leaving it has been in lockstep with the steady erosion of the middle class and the grinding down of the working class to an underclass.