Gays in the Narcissistic Black Church

Gays in the Narcissistic Black Church

I think we all know someone who was raised in church and is gay. This is nothing new. The Black Church is full of gays and lesbians. As a matter of fact, every black church has at least one gay person and one gay pastor. But the real question is this: what's attracting those who are gay to the a narcissistic black church? I mean- don't get me wrong, they are in the right place for deliverance. And again the question is what's attracting those who struggle with homosexuality to a narcissistic black church? Well, let's break it down.

Let's take for an example the black preacher. As I stated before, the black preacher is a egotistical character.The ‘egotistical black preacher’ is usually someone who loves control. This type of preacher expects their members to adhere to their wishes-even if it goes against the Bible and his/her morals. The ‘egotistical black preacher ‘sees themselves as being more intelligent and knowledgeable than anyone else on any subject and uses their wisdom to draw their narcissistic supply. Narcissists attracts weak minded individuals. They thrive for these types. Again, let's take for an example Eddie Long.

The allegations of Eddie Long were this: he captured 'fatherless' boys with his charm, knowledge, and title (power). Then after he captured them, they became his boy toys. He controlled them. They obeyed his rules- in return Eddie Long received his narcissistic supply. Okay, so I need to stop for a minute and explain to you the meaning of narcissistic supply. Narcissistic supply is: 

The narcissist, is the mental equivalent of an alcoholic. He is insatiable. He compulsively directs his whole behavior, in fact his life, to obtaining these pleasurable titbits of attention. He embeds them in a coherent, completely biased, fantastic picture of himself. He uses them to regulate his labile sense of self-worth and self-esteem. He needs narcissistic supply to carry out basic mental (ego) functions. Without it he crumbles and becomes dysfunctional.To elicit constant interest, he projects to others a confabulated, fictitious version of himself, known as the False Self. The False Self is everything the narcissist is not: omniscient, omnipotent, charming, intelligent, rich, or well-connected.The narcissist then proceeds to harvest reactions to this projected image from family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, business partners and from colleagues. If these – the adulation, admiration, attention, fear, respect, applause, affirmation – are not forthcoming, the narcissist demands them, or extorts them. Money, compliments, a favorable critique, an appearance in the media, a sexual conquest are all converted into the same currency in the narcissist's mind.

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My theory is this-if you were raised or  you currently attend  a narcissistic black church where you think the pastor has the above narcissistic characteristics; and the narcissistic supply turns or has turned into sexual favors, please seek help and leave that church immediately! So-the question was: What's attracting those who struggle with homosexuality to a narcissistic black church? The answer: a narcissistic pastor attracts gays to the church only for his narcissistic supply. Narcissism isn't of God. Perhaps, it's from Satan (I will discuss about this soon-stay tuned :-). Stay prayed up saints of God!

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