The Emotional Verbal Abusive Narcissistic Church Mother [[MUST READ]]

The Emotional Verbal Abusive Narcissistic Church Mother [[MUST READ]]

My mother is the oldest girl out of nine children who was raised in a single parent home by my grandmother. When my mother was six years old, her father died in a car accident. One could only imagine the devastation and impact that a child at the age of my mother could've experienced due to the sudden death of her father.

 My grandfather's death trigger the narcissistic behavior that my mother suffers with today. My mother emotions were involuntary disruptive because the death of her father, which in-turn caused her to later become emotionally abusive towards her children. Emotional abuse from a parent occurs when the parent tries to fulfill those needs that normally should have been filled during a healthy childhood and adolescence.

Below are characteristics of an emotional abusive parent...

1.Making the child/teen feel responsible for the parent feelings.
2.Threatening them in general.
3.Threatening them specifically with rejection or abandonment.
4. Threatening them with vague, unstated consequences.
5. Using force upon them. Invalidating their feelings.
6.Laying undeserved guilt on them.
7. Placing undeserved blame on them.
8. Dominating the conversations.
9. Refusing to apologize.
10. Always needing to have the last word..
11 Judging or rejecting their friends.
12. Sending them to their rooms for crying.
13. Locking them out of the house.
14. Using punishments and rewards to manipulate and control them.
15. Invading their privacy.
16 Under-estimating them.
17. Failing to show trust in them.
18. Labeling them. Criticizing them.
19. Giving them the silent treatment.
20. Failing to give them real explanations.
21. Giving non-explanations such as "because it is wrong" or "because it is inappropriate" or "because it is a sin"
22.Slapping

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Characteristics of verbal abuse can also be: insults, name calling, controlling, demeaning and degrading the child, humiliating, manipulation, and silence.